Friday, April 24, 2009

Because women are so competitive


Pop Culture will tell you that a woman is not competitive. Competition is the man’s world. However, as usual, when you look into it, the reverse is the truth.

Competition runs deepest in women, and it is far more ruthless than in men. Men have physical tousles to mental jousts to energise themselves and come out stronger (more on this later). However, women are merciless. They will easily commit almost any deed to get the thing that they want more than anything else.

That thing is power. Power over others that they feel they need, or power over themselves.

When you are needed or loved by a woman, you are at your most vulnerable. Women will go to great lengths to reduce the self esteem of someone they love, in order to keep control of them. They will do this with their children and their friends. A woman will happily cripple the self esteem of their own child, or their capacity to take on the world in a robust fashion, simply so she gets to feel needed for the rest of her life.

A woman will look her friend up and down in their dress, scrutinise them, and then break out in a smile and Says “You look lovely” which means “Phew! You’re no competition.”

And the friend knows this.

The reason women love the gossip magazines are because stars are revealed to be ordinary, have pimples, cellulite and wrinkles. Instead of thinking, “she’s just like me”, the woman will be thinking “good, when I finally get rid of all those things I will be better than her too.” She wants to see Angelina Jolie, Nicole Kidman, Paris Hilton, Princess Mary, Britney Spears and Lindsay Lohan looking ugly, with no makeup, stressed, exhausted and above all else, fat.

In romance novels no woman is disappointed with her life and therefore no woman needs to be envious and competitive with another woman. If any woman is, she is instantly exposed as evil and will be destroyed in some way or another. So the reader gets to feel that she is special without fear of having her ordinariness exposed by accuracy.



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