Thursday, May 28, 2009

Because men have made feminism all about men

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Men are threatened by feminism.

This is fair enough, seeing as the bulk of what feminism wants to do is remove male privilege, and create a level playing field. This inevitably means women's efforts get recognised and men have to make an effort to get recognised.

So you can understand why some men might not be thrilled about the idea.

However, the best attack on feminism - and one that men are particularly good at - is to kerfuffle the idea so that when you talk about feminism - its all about men. How men 'feel' about it, how they are 'coping' in the work place, how confused they are on dates, what they think of Germaine Greer, do they keep opening car doors, and their opinions on female sports presenters. These have become the primary 'issues' that 'feminism' has to deal with cleverly making the topic primarily a male topic.

Even amongst women, you will find the topic of feminism will either start with or turn quickly to, men. How does your husband feel about it;  are men turned on by feminism;  and my personal favourite, I would be a feminist but my husband wants me to shave my legs.

In romance novels feminism isn't really an issue. Some protagonists are, some aren't, but their men love them anyway, aren't threatened and really really don't need to make it all about them.

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  4. Kerfuffle.

    Feminism is about neutering gender and ignoring sex. Maybe it's a swinging pendulum and the fact that women were so legally and socially limited that the only way for women to get rights was to defect and act like men, but it's become the standard -- feminists built a culture around the idea that there is no difference between the genders, thus neutering themselves and men.

    A job should be a job. It should pay the same no matter who is doing it, gender, race, whatever. No one should have to worry about being abused in a relationship. Banks shouldn't even have a gender box on the loan applications.

    But if they ever find a cure for masculinity and femininity, shoot me. Shoot me multiple times and then burn my body. Because that's the day the Borg take over Earth.

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  5. Definitely agree that a job is a job and if you do it you shuld just get paid for it.
    Nothing else comes into that equasion!
    thanks for the comment
    B.

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