Saturday, May 09, 2009

Because men have trouble letting go

take the balls

Men find it very difficult to come to terms with the fact that their penis is simply a functioning (or not) organ on their body. Because it is the primary thing that identifies them as male, it is very important to a man that the penis is recognised and given its proper place, as the definition of what separates a male from a female.

It is, therefore, very difficult for men to understand how a penis can mean nothing to a woman.

And nowhere is this more evident, than when a man has slept with a woman.

Men think their penis has such a profound impact on a woman, that they imagine they ‘own’ her, or perhaps to put it in a more egalitarian sense, they have ‘claimed’ her when they sleep with her. It is impossible for a man to imagine that the woman can get over the experience created by his penis.

This belief inevitably leads to deep insecurity in the man. Either his penis does not mean everything in the world to her, or the men who slept with her before him mean more to her than him. This is a very difficult moment for a man to face. He used to be able to deal with it by marrying, or dating virgins. These days women ‘sow their wild oats’ just as the men do, so the anxiety is back again.

It’s a choice for a man, between the deep importance the penis has on the woman, or knowing that she still longs for that first, most important penis.

It is also for this reason that men have great trouble letting go of the previous girlfriends. Just as he is convinced the previous penises in his lover’s life influence her still, so he believes that he still influences the women from his past. That they may have gotten over him is unfathomable to a man. He may not have seen an ex for years and years but if he accidently bumps into her in the supermarket, he immediately wants to renew contact. It is essential that he find out – that he know for sure, if she still thinks about his penis.

In romance novels the men are not worried about other penises. They know that their partner is not a piece of soap – she will not wear out. As long as she is faithful to them while they are with her, her history and it contents are irrelevant.

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