Sunday, May 24, 2009

Because men have trouble with other points of view

Man in front of a choice

Alternate ways of looking at something is very difficult for a man. Part of the assumption of male privilege, means that men don’t actually know that there are other ideas out there. They have the idea – it’s called a fact – and other people say things and need to be informed of the facts.

Period.

This is partly why it is very difficult for men to ask for directions or follow instruction when setting up household gadgets. If they don’t actually know it, it isn’t known.

There are some circumstances where men are able to be taught things. They will do it in a framework of understanding like a university course or some other kind of school course. In this situation, however, it is expected that the man who is learning the new thing, will be able to achieve a piece of paper that tells everyone that he now officially knows that thing. For a man, this means that he is as accomplished as every other person who holds the same piece of paper, regardless of how many years they’ve held it, or how many other papers they have as well as it.

Only if a man can receive the piece of paper proving he has learnt the new thing, is he willing to concede that he didn’t know something in the first place,. And even while he is learning, he assumes (as we have seen previously) that he is a geniuses; that no other student is as advanced as he; and he secretly and naturally knows more than his professor anyway.

In romance novels, it isn’t a sign of weakness for a man if he doesn’t know something. It isn’t a sign of weakness if someone else knows something and they found it out before him – even if it is something he is interested in. Intelligent women read romance novels because they are excited and fascinated by this kind of man and want to read more and more about him.

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