Sunday, May 31, 2009

Because women think celebrities are their friends

Superstar crowded by paparazzi

Do you wonder why women read those terrible gossip magazines? Do you wonder why women are so interested in the lives of people they don’t know?

This is because women actually think they DO know these people. Do you remember when you were a teenager and you ‘fell in love’ with the lead singer of that band and you thought to yourself – ‘if only they KNEW me, I just know we’d be together.” Or “I know them better than anyone else. I’d love to talk to them. I know deep down we’d be great friends.”

These magazines are an extension of that time in adolescence you thought that by listening to that song, that you could see into that artists heart.

Women who read these magazines believe them. They DO think the people in those magazines are their friends. They will read it then defend Angelina  and Brad by saying to their friends around them “I love this couple and everything they stand for. I know this article is a lie. As if he would be cheating on HER!” Or they will say “See, I never liked Nicole Kidman! Even when the whole world loved her, I knew deep down that there was something not right there.”

Women think they are reading articles and comments about their friends – not distant people who they have never known and never will. And worse than that, they also think Brad, Angelina, Lindsay and Princes Mary are grateful for their valuable friendship or that they are ‘aware’ and afraid of their knowledgeable judgement.

In romance novels women rarely indulge in gossip magazines. Gossip exists but it is generally legitimised and between people who actually know each other. Gossip does not involve people who live lifetimes we can know nothing about under complex difficulties we couldn’t possibly judge. And women on romance novels rarely have the time to devote to chasing titbits of information that have no foundation in reality.



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