Sunday, June 28, 2009

Because women will only do something nice for someone else if they get acknowledged for it

tired housewife cleaning the dishes

It’s better to receive than give a dam

Women like to do nice things for people. There is no doubt about it. However, what they do not like, is to have the good deed go unnoticed.

In fact, women will do anything, from deep dramatic sighs as they are doing the helpful task all the way through to flat out telling you and demanding a ‘thankyou’, a ‘good job’ or some sort of acknowledgement when it is complete.

Women will do this, and they will complain at great length when a man does the same thing. If he announces he will do the washing up tonight, she rolls her eyes and makes a rude comment about him needing to make a song and dance. Truth is, every man who does make a song and dance about the great lengths he’s gone to in order to complete a favour, has learnt the technique from a woman.

There is a saying that goes ‘no good deed goes unpunished.’ What we don’t realise is that the person performing the good deed is also allowed to inflict punishment on all those around them. Women simply do not want to do things without being seen. So all the others in the household must be tortured with the constant badgering to have them notice the good deed she has performed.

This is why when you come home at the end of the day your wife / mother, has to tell you all the things she did for you that day. I made a dentist appointment for you, I got the library books you wanted, I returned the books you don’t need, I’ve made dinner, I’ve done the washing, I was here when you got home.... and so on.

In romance novels women don’t need to relate every little good deed they performed in the day because they feel safe and loved for who they are, and because they perform good deeds out of generosity, not out of increasing a secret point scoring system that seems to be going on, or getting into heaven. Women do good things, because they’re good people. And that’s the end of that story.



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