Monday, December 21, 2009

Because men can only fix machines

"If it can't be fixed by duct tape or WD-40, it's a female problem. "  Jason Love

There is a divide between men and women along the lines of accountability for certain sorts of problems that might go in on a household.

Change a light bulb – ask him

Deal with the tantrum of teen angst – ask her

Give the car a grease and oil change – ask him

Get his sister and his parents talking again before Christmas – ask her

Repair the burnt out motor in the fridge – ask him

Find a good school for the kids – ask her

It was assumed that this divide went along the lines of emotion versus practicality. However, we have seen before in this blog that men are every bit as emotional as women, and women are every bit as practical as men.

So what is really going on here?

The bottom line is emotional problems are a hundred times more difficult to fix. They require long-term strategizing, curbing and containing your own emotions, concentrated listening to someone else, team building and leadership skills. If a man was expected to do this as part of running the Dubai branch of Halliburton, he could do it with skill and competency.

However, when he comes home at the end of the day, he just wants a beer and TV.

Ask any woman if she’d rather change a light bulb or manage her teenager’s ainxt ridden sulks and the light bulb wins hands down. It's an easier job with instant results.

These days, of course, it’s getting better.

Men are now at least trying to do some of the above things, and in rare cases, doing a really good job. For the most part its one of those little things they toss their hands in the air about and defer to her ‘Superior natural’ skills in the area.

To counter balance this women are now expected to change the tyres, keep the car up to date and change the light bulbs too.

I guess that’s a kind of progress.

In romance novels the roles are clearly defined because they have been drawn up by women and therefore always fall in her favour. Each and every hero does defer the emotional tasks to her, claim she has superior knowledge, and then listens enthralled as she recounts, word for word the lengthy conversations it took to get there. If she has to be assigned certain roles, the best she can hope for is to have them appreciated.

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