Tuesday, February 09, 2010

When love is not madness, it is not love.  ~Pedro Calderon de la Barca

Valentines Day is a bit of a mixed bag.

Lets get one thing straight. It's not chic.  don't care how many times Jennifer Garner and Anne Hathaway appear in films with this title, no one can make Valentines Day chic. It has that whole 'Hallmark holiday' sting now, and after the Simpsons did their rendition of 'Love Day', Valentines Day has well and truly fallen into a bottomless well of 'daggy'. Valentines day means disgusting fluffy toys that have traded what little dignity they had for "I wuv woo" red satin cushions. It means velveteen roses and cheap silver plated heart jewellery. It is kitsch at its absolute worst (except perhaps for Venetian Christs on gondola lanterns).

Having said that, it does have the advantage of giving clear signals and overpriced opportunities to poor guys who REALY don't get the whole romance thing and just don't know what to do for the rest of the year. A nice chunk of cash spent on Valentines Day on a huge bunch of roses WILL actually go a long way.

Then of course there is the inevitable Valentines day argument. So many pent-up expectations (her - expensive jewellery, him - hot sex) and then the friend at the next cubicle at work who is three years younger than you, gets proposed to by her six month old boyfriend using a sky writing aeroplane to land her a rock on her finger the size of her ego.

So, why... WHY do women want to MARRY on this day. The flowers will cost you more than flowers ever will at any other time, and the last thing people want to do on that day is think about YOUR relationships. Theyre all pissed off about their gifts and unmet expectations. Surely you're not just trying to out do the girl with the sky writing boyfriend?

I do think that is it - at the end of the day - Valentines day is all about women competing with each other to show off how deeply nabbed their boyfriend is.  With women, it always come back to competing with each other.

In romance novels, there is some Valentines Day acknowledgement, however for the most part, romance, hot sex and fulfilling emotional connection are de rigeur so the need for one specific day where this all gets handled is non existent. And that is why, deep down, women wish the world were like that.


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