Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Because women think they can change their man

Now don’t get me wrong. I actually think women can change men. However, they can’t be changed with threats, fights, pouting, withholding sex, tantrums, foot stamping, force of will or justified outrage.

I will let you in on a secret ladies.

Men LOVE it when you put up a fight. 60% of the time they are interacting with you, they are trying to get you to have a fight. If he has done something to provoke this kind of behaviour in you, you need to know you have fallen for a trick of some kind. When you give him the type of behaviour that indicates you are deeply upset, you are giving him exactly what he wants.

Women can change a man, but it has to start with her independence, emotional, physical and spiritual and she can only do it gently – pat the lion.

As long as women keep performing like children in order to get what they want, then they can only expect to be treated like children I am afraid to say. Have you ever looked a child who is throwing a tantrum in the supermarket because they want that particular chocolate? Does it make you feel like rewarding that behaviour? No, well it doesn’t make him feel like that either.

In romance novels, women don’t throw tantrums, or at least if they do get very upset it is over genuine life threatening situations that call for that sort of response. And in almost every romance novel ever written, the men change. That is another reason women love them so much.


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