Thursday, July 08, 2010

Because older women turn on younger women



Unfortunately the list is long and tiresome.

But here are two classic examples of women - feminists in their youth - who have turned rabidly against women in their old age.

Dr Laura Schlesinger and Bettina Arndt are just two. I could mention more, but these two women will give you a good idea of what I'm talking about. The first has written a book called "The proper care and feeding of husbands" (trying to convince women that a good meal will change their man) and the second has just written an article in the main stream Australian press claiming that an unmarried, childless female prime minister in Australia is a bad influence on women. (I kid you not)

Now, it's not that these women aren't entitled to their opinion. I am emphatically against misogyny, but misogyny is not as bad as refusing someone the right to speak. I may hate what they say, but I will defend their right to say it. However, both these women were feminists when they were younger (in other words - freedom was good in THEIR youth but they don't want it for the younger women of today - or they're jealous of how much freedom women might be gaining today) and my really big problem with this is...

Can you think of a male equivalent?

I can't.

Can you think of a man who, now in his 'twilight' years is openly coming out and attacking the way younger men are living their lives? No. That's because there aren't any.

Now there are plenty of older men openly criticising WOMEN - they have always existed. I am talking about this bitchy snarling thing that older women do to younger women. Men just don't do this to each other.

It seems Dr Laura left "Publicly and privately backstabbing each other" out of her list of ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives.

One of the most important thing a woman can do for herself is learn to love other women. And not just the women who are behaving in a way YOU think is appropriate. Men may not have warm feelings for every man they know, but they have an underlying respect for each other that very few women have.

A lot of this has to do with the universal hatred of women. These women are exhibiting a public hatred of women. Now, I am not against open and honest debate, but telling women that if you follow the patterns of the fifties housewife has been shown to lead women down destructive paths that are very bad for them. Laura suggests in her authors note in The Proper care and feeding of Husbands, that women wanting to go on vacation without their husbands, or wanting to refuse sex because they are upset are some how not showing concern for "the guy that goes out and slays dragons for her and their child every day". Of course the fact that SHE has been slaying dragons for the family as well, is irrelevant.

I'm sorry, what's wrong with a woman wanting to go on a vacation without her husband? As long as he is free to as well, I really don't see why she has her knickers in a knot over this one.

But then that is it isn't it? s usual there is no rationality behind any of this. it is all pumped out by some sort of latent weirdness about what they used to be when they were young and what they are now. When men get conservative in their old age, they make money and vote right-wing. When women get conservative in their old age, they attack younger women.

In romance novels the only person the heroine can rely on as much as - and sometimes more than - her hero, is the unfailing, supportive perfect best friend. Women loveingly paint this person in their books just as much as they paint the fantasy hero. She is loyal, upright and true. She doesn't try to steal your man, she is there for you and she supports you.  And that is another reason women love these books so much.

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